Grieving…

After you suffer a miscarriage, the next stage you went into is the grieving process. Sad to say, there is no one telling you how to get over it, also, when will you ever get over it. The truth is, you will never get over it, but you manage to live with it as days go by. It may get easier on days, however sometimes it just struck like tsunami waves hitting right at your face. Being woman, we also grief differently. To us, we need to talk about it frequently, cried about it and repeat it all over again the next day. For the guy, they just want to stay quiet at times and move on weeping on the inside. However, we blame them for moving on so quickly, for looking indifferent, without realising deep down they were grieving too but are staying strong for us.

I heard from a mother who pointed out another perspective that she wanted her hubby to move on quickly. Her reason was simple, it was a dark, sad and depressed place. She don’t like to be there and obviously don’t want her loved ones to dwell in there and likewise for him to pick up quickly so that in time he can pull her out of it too. It blew my mind, if only we can all think as such. However, when you are grieving, you really don’t know how you feel until the day comes and how you may go through every day. It is like you are going through every day without a plan, you just go with the flow and the flow also means anything can change at the very last hour or the last minute!